Meditation

"I'm terrible at meditating. I get distracted too easily." I hear this all the time. And honestly? It makes me a little sad. Because if you think you're "bad" at meditation, it probably means you've absorbed the unfortunate (and entirely untrue) idea that something is supposed  to happen when you meditate. That your thoughts are supposed to vanish. That you're supposed to effortlessly slip into a state of blissful, unwavering presence. And that if you're getting distracted, w

One of the most unexpected gifts of my meditation practice has been the unveiling of my own willfulness. It's a funny thing – this desire to control, to dictate the terms of our lives and resist the natural flow of change. We crave control, yet it's often this very grip that leaves us feeling stuck and powerless. Meditation, in its stillness, shines a light on this often-unconscious tendency. In the quiet space between thoughts, I've begun to notice the subtle (and not-so-sub